Post 7: Date Nights in a Throuple – Because Three’s Company, Not a Crowd

Dinner Date 2024

Let’s talk date nights, shall we?

Now, before you roll your eyes and think, “Oh great, another couple being cute,” remember—we’re not a couple. We’re a throuple. That’s three schedules, three personalities, and, somehow, still, zero dinner decisions made until someone finally snaps and orders tacos.

But seriously, whether you're in a couple or a throuple, date nights matter. They're the glue that holds your connection together when life gets chaotic when work sucks, and when you’re one group text away from combusting over who was supposed to unload the dishwasher, it was Zoey's turn I thought.

And for us, they’re not just about romance—they’re about recharging as a trio, reconnecting on more than just who's picking up chicken food this week, and remembering why we all fell in love in the first place.

Why Date Nights Are Even More Important in a Throuple

People always ask, “How do you even do date night with three people?” Honestly, sometimes we don’t know either. 😂 But we try.

Life gets loud. Work, house projects, dog chaos, social commitments, endless texts, and whatever current event is screaming at us through the news—it’s a lot. So having a carved-out time that’s just for the three of us? It's sacred.

Also, let’s not forget how much easier it is to accidentally neglect quality time when you’ve got more than one partner. You’ll catch yourself telling one of them something and realize you never told the other, and now you’re on repeat like you're starring in your own reality TV confessionals. Date night helps keep everyone on the same page—emotionally, mentally, and yes, even gossip-wise.

And when we’re out together, just enjoying life like any other relationship, and people don’t give us that “Oh... interesting” stare? It’s magic. You’d be shocked how rare it still is to just exist in public as a throuple without feeling like you’re part of someone’s dinner conversation at the next table.

Date Night Ideas: Because Hulu and Tacos Can Only Go So Far

Dates In – Cozy Chaos

Some nights, we don’t want to leave the house. Pajamas are on, the dogs are passed out, and no one is feeling like putting on real pants. That’s where at-home date nights save the day.

- Card games and cocktails – A classic. Except someone (Caleb) turns it into a competitive sport and we all pretend we don’t care... until Will’s winning and then it’s war.

- Movie nights – Which sound great in theory, until Daniel and Caleb both fall asleep halfway through and Will is left watching alone while quietly judging everyone’s snoring volume. So now we stick to comedies—we might miss the ending, but at least we’re laughing.

- Low-volume reality TV + delivery + catching up – This is peak us. We let HGTV hum in the background while we eat delivery and catch up on our week. These are our fave nights—no cooking, no cleanup, just chatting and reconnecting over takeout and “how was your day” moments that feel way more special than they sound.

Dates Out – Public Throuple Mode: Activated

And then there are the nights where we clean up, throw on something that isn’t a hoodie, and head out for an actual night on the town.

- Dinner, obviously. Especially at places where we’re regulars and the server doesn’t flinch when we all order drinks for ourselves... and then split one appetizer because we’re “trying to be good.”

- Walks on the beach + appetizers – Nothing like watching the sunset while trying to eat calamari without it blowing away.

- Sunset hikes – When we’re feeling outdoorsy and energetic (which is usually after someone guilt-trips the others into “fresh air”). Bonus points for a photo with a view that makes us look way more active than we are.

- Seasonal fun like haunted houses – Every October, we promise to be cool and brave. And every year, Caleb screams the loudest. (Not to name names, but it’s always Caleb)

Making It Happen—Because Life Is Busy

We’d love to say we do weekly date nights, but let’s be real: sometimes it’s more like “Hey, we haven’t sat down without our phones in two weeks, wanna hang out?”

The trick is not to make it too complicated. You don’t have to drop hundreds of dollars or plan some over-the-top experience. Just set aside the time—no phones, no distractions, just us. That’s what makes it count.

And when the night ends and we’re vibing? We don’t have to text the group chat to keep it going—we are the group chat. Built-in after-party. 😎

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Why It Matters (Even More Than the Fancy Dinner)

At the end of the day, date night is about intention. It’s the choice to stop everything else and be present with the people you love. In a throuple, that gets even more valuable. It’s a moment to remind each other that yes, we’re doing this—together.

Because love in a throuple is wild, beautiful, messy, and magical—and just like anyone else’s relationship, it deserves that kind of attention. So whether it’s a hike, a drink, a Bravo binge, or laughing over card games and cocktails, make time for it.

And if you’ve got any fun, throuple-friendly date night ideas? Send them our way—we’re always down to mix it up (unless it’s horror movies… then Caleb’s out 😂).

Life Lately: Retrograde Mayhem, Late Nights & Book Plots

Okay, so… was anyone else hit by Mercury Retrograde like a truck last week? Because, wow. Between nonstop work calls, canceled Fairs (yep, plural), and a sprinkle of unexpected family drama— it just wouldn’t let up. Every day felt like, “What now?!” energy. 😩

Before Will’s sister left, he said he really needed a night out—and honestly, same. So Friday we made it happen. We grabbed dinner at a local spot, then ended up at this tiny, slightly questionable, totally perfect hole-in-the-wall bar. Let’s just say we partied like we were still 22... and we are very much not. Saturday hit like a brick wall. Will didn’t even make it out of bed. But hey, he got it out of his system—and I think the rest of us did too. 😂

On the flip side of the chaos, some exciting stuff is happening…The book. Yes, that crazy book idea we teased is actually becoming a thing. Will somehow cranked out an 80-page outline over the weekend (don’t ask how we’re still confused), and it’s now taking shape into a real story. Daniel took one look and said, “OMG Will, this could really be something. Just keep going at that pace.” Which, coming from Daniel, is basically a standing ovation. 👏

It’s been wild watching our real-life stories evolve into fictional characters with love stories, spicy scenes 🌶️, and the kind of drama that makes you want to turn the page at 2 a.m. It’s weird… and kinda wonderful.

Oh—and before we go silent for a bit, this will be the last blog post before Costa Rica! 🇨🇷

Caleb is hitting the big 4-0, and we’ve got a two-week adventure planned to celebrate. We’ll try to post a little on IG while we’re away, but we’re also treating this as a true reset. Two weeks of reconnecting, celebrating, and figuring out what’s next for us… because honestly, Hawaii is feeling more and more real lately. 🌺🌊

Aloha for now. We’ll be back soon—with sun-kissed pics, probably too many mosquito bites, and a fresh batch of stories to tell. ☀️🦟📸