Last week's Questions:
What are your favorite colors?
Each of us has a favorite color that suits our personality perfectly. Daniel gravitates toward green, a color that reflects his love for nature and growth. Caleb’s favorite is blue, which makes sense given his calm and steady demeanor (and maybe a little nod to his Navy days). Will, on the other hand, is all about black—classic, bold, and effortlessly cool.
What is your go-to food?
Hands down, Mexican food. We eat it so often that we don’t even call it Mexican food anymore—it’s just food. Every other type of cuisine gets called by name, but tacos, burritos, and enchiladas? That’s just everyday life for us.
Have you ever hung out with another throuple?
Over the years, we’ve met a lot of amazing people through social media, including other throuples. And yes, we have hung out with another throuple before—actually, we were really good friends until their relationship imploded. Let me tell you, when a throuple breaks up, it’s a disaster that makes the average couple’s breakup look like a cakewalk.
We first connected with them on Instagram, chatting for a while before deciding to meet up on our first trip to Alaska. Looking back, it could have been the perfect setup for a murder mystery movie. Two of them met us in the middle of the woods, in an empty parking lot, where they had a couple of four-wheelers, tequila, and mixers. I mean, what could go wrong?! Luckily, nothing did, and we had an amazing time exploring the base of the Knik Glacier.
After a day of riding and a few margaritas, they invited us back to their place—but not without a warning: "Your phones won’t work, so just follow us." Sounds totally safe, right? When we arrived, we finally met the third guy. But let me tell you, he had *no idea* we were coming. He walked out into the garage in his bathrobe, greeted us with a forced smile that said, "I am barely entertaining this exchange but will leave my dogs and guns inside for now." Not exactly the warmest welcome, but hey, we rolled with it.
Despite the unexpected introduction, we ended up having a great night, complete with dinner and some deep conversations. When you meet another throuple, you connect fast because you just 'get' each other—the ups, the downs, and the unique dynamics that come with this kind of relationship.
For a couple of years, we talked daily and built a solid friendship. But when their relationship ended, we became collateral damage in the explosion. That’s life, though. We still keep in touch with one of the guys, while the other two completely disappeared.
These days, we still chat with other throuples through social media, but we haven’t hung out with another one since—mostly because we haven’t found any local ones we click with. Maybe one day we’ll cross paths with another throuple and give it another shot.
What a Throuple Is (And What It Isn’t):
Common Misconceptions:
We’ve touched on this a little in our previous post, but let’s clear something up once and for all: not all throuples are “hoes.” Just because we’re in a relationship with two guys doesn’t mean our relationship is any less real or committed. In fact, it’s the opposite. We live a fully intertwined life—we own a home together, run a business, take care of our two dogs, and work through the daily ups and downs of life as a team.
But here’s where things get tricky: because our relationship is a little unconventional, people sometimes think it’s not “real” or that we don’t have the same challenges as other couples. Let’s be clear: we face the same issues that any couple does, with a little extra complexity due to the dynamics of three people. We’re in this for the long haul, and our commitment to each other is just as strong (if not stronger) than any other monogamous relationship.
How It Really Works:
So, what’s it actually like? Well, let’s start with communication—you can never have enough of it in a throuple. Our group chat is always buzzing with updates, inside jokes, plans, and sometimes, things you’d rather not know. It’s just part of the process when you’re in a relationship with two people! But communication is what keeps us connected, and it’s something we work hard at every day.
As for love, it’s the same as any other relationship, just with a little extra. We love each other equally, but we each bring something different to the table. The dynamics are more intense—there’s more love, but there are also more opinions and emotions to juggle. On the flip side, the “bad” days are made easier knowing you have two people to lean on. Whether it’s a tough work day or a personal struggle, there’s always someone there to pick you up and make things better.
A Little Disclaimer: It’s important to note that every throuple is different—what works for us might not work for someone else. We know other throuples who operate completely differently, and that’s okay! Our experience is unique to us, and that’s the beauty of throuples: they can look however you want them to. There’s no one-size-fits-all answer when it comes to relationships, especially in a throuple, and that’s something we truly believe in.
Week Ahead:
As we kick off our first OATF® location of 2025, we just want to take a moment to remind everyone—be kind to someone today. This world could use a little more love and acceptance. To say we’re not nervous about this next season would be a lie—we’re not naive. But what choice do we have? Are we really going to stop creating safe spaces for the youth who don’t always have the support they need at home? Absolutely not.
Now more than ever, it’s crucial to show up—support your local Pride, LGBTQ+ events, or even the nearest OATF®. And this isn’t just for our LGBTQ+ family; we need our allies too. Together, we’ll keep pushing progress forward. Hope you all have an amazing week—catch you in the next blog after the event!
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